My sister told me about Trent Shelton on Facebook because she really liked the stuff that he has to say. Well something that he says a lot is “You’re prefect for the heart that’s meant to love you.” I really like this and it really hits home to me.  I do not know if there is a girl out there that does not struggle with self-confidence, self-worth and self-esteem to some degree.  I can say that I face these struggles daily. There are days that I wake up and look at myself in the mirror and do not feel pretty. There are days that I struggle with my personality and wish that I could be like someone else. There are days that I feel like I suck at everything that I do and wonder what the heck am I good at. Things will happen in a course of a day and I ask myself why can’t I be this way or why can’t I be that way. I think maybe if I was this way or that way then maybe people, ok let’s be honest, that mainly guys would like me more. However, I have always known better than to let these thoughts change me. I have always known that there is someone out there who will like me for me. So when I saw this quote I was able to actually put words to how I felt.

My wish is that girls could hear this quote and could really believe in this quote. I am not saying that believing this will mean that you will not struggle but it will give you the strength to quickly push the self-doubt out of your mind. The truth is that you cannot get the approval from every person out there, there are people who are going to think that you are pretty, ugly, mean, nice, fun, boring and the list can go on and on and the truth is that maybe you honest feel these ways  about yourself too. But as long as you can be happy with who you are there is a person out there that will see just how great you are, they will see that “You’re PERFECT.” So please don’t waste your time trying to get the approval of people whose approval you do not need. Stay true to yourself and wait for the “heart that is meant to LOVE you!”

The other day at work a co-worker asked me if I did any ballroom dancing, in which I answered, YES! (not all that great though) He informed me that while working in China that thousands of people would be in the parks practicing ballroom dancing before going into work. Well this story led to him painting a wonderful illustration of how a man as the ability to completely change the way a woman thinks about and presents herself. He stated that the man’s role is to lead the woman and make her feel safe and comfortable. The woman is to follow but as she feels more confident with each step she can be led into more dance moves creating an amazing routine. Loving to dance but not being very good I can really relate to this feeling. Depending on who I am dancing with can make the difference in if I feel confident in myself or not. But as he was telling me I started thinking that what if we as a society took this into all relationships. What would happen if men decided to start leading again and no matter what is going on around them made a woman fell safe and comfortable? What if women let the man lead in the relationship? Just maybe the product would be a beautiful, confident and strong woman that looks amazing dancing around on the dance floor but only because she is completely surrendered to the man leading.